Making Being ‘Mother’ a Profession

Everyday, I meet women who once were professionals – they were doctors, software engineers, HR consultants, journalists and so much more. People knew them for their diligence, work ethics and never say no attitude. They had an identity and a career and it was all going upwards.

Then they became MOTHERS and it all changed forever.

They became poop cleaners, food feeders and just obsessed with ‘cleaning up.’ They started getting judged not by their work but by how much weight is their baby gaining. People forgot their real names and instead started calling them as somebody’s mother. It all went on a road with more downs than ups.

I should know, I am one of them. How much I hate being called ‘stay-at-home mother.’ Doesn’t matter whether people call it ‘housewife’ or ‘house maker’ or ‘house manager,’ the label annoys me like nothing else. May be because somewhere all these labels create image of a woman watching soap operas on a couch.

I neither have complaints nor regrets about having my daughter. I love her and love giving her 100% of my attention. But I’ll be lying if I say that I don’t wish to have a full-time job, a profession and an identity.

It is my fourth year into motherhood and I have found a way out. If it is my daughter’s name that people are identifying me as, how about I make that a part of my identity and more forward with it. I have figured out ways in which I can nurture my daughter to the best of my ability and still create a place that caters to the professional within me.

The way is not straightforward. It has a lot of ifs and buts.

The way is not similar to a 9 to 5 job that you do and get done with. It is much harder and will keep you on your toes well through the midnight.

It is definitely not going to reap any immediate benefits. It is for those who can keep up with the slow and the steady.

However, this way is rewarding, satisfying and will let you stay in touch with the professional that you once were.

Yes, I am following it and it is only getting better.

Welcome to the world that I creating for me the mother. Welcome to my Yellow Mellow Life.